UNCONSCIOUS (not conscious; lacking awareness and the capacity for sensory perception as if asleep or dead)

AUTHOR: Sofia Davis

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If you speak to most people they will say “support independent/small businesses.  Then when they get a little status, they forget about the people that helped them, who were their foundation and who will continue to be their fans, good or bad, right or wrong.

Why is it that when they “make it” they tend to forget the people that held them down (urban dictionary definition), why when Entertainers, whether it be Rappers, Models, First Ladies, Photographers, Fashion Designers, Producers, Stylists, Hair Dressers, etc., they tend to become “UNREACHABLE”.   Look at any video and you will see most in CHANEL, LOUIS VUITTON, BALENCIAGA, MARC JACOBS….. when 2-3 years ago you could not even afford any of this………..

Why don’t they STILL go to the same hair stylist or work with the same designers that were “GIVING” them clothes or doing their hair “FREE” for that show or appearance when we did not have 2 nickels to rub together, now they get a little status and they have to get an entire new CREW…..what about the PR company that wrote Press Release for you for FREE?  Now you got a NEW TEAM……..What’s Up With That?

We run out and get a CHANEL bag instead of a BOBBETT EIZA bag…(independent luxury handbag designer), CHANEL only wants you because you have MONEY, when the money run out or you fall off, where is CHANEL, I bet you can’t walk in CHANEL store and get ANYTHING FREE…………Don’t get me wrong, I think you should buy what you can afford, but give back to the independents also, buy both handbags……….

When you need FINANCIAL SPONSORSHIP………where is CHANEL but the family owned/small business restaurant will give you a check or food for your event.

No matter how high you rise, always remember where you came from.  This means if you had a good relationship with a small business, why can’t you continue to use that business.  If an unknown photographer took photos and they were good, why get a “CELEBRITY” photographer now that you’ve gained some status?

Most people that know me, know I like to tell stories…. Well I got a story, here we go…… Fashion Avenue News was tapped a few years ago to do the TV segment of Germany’s Next top Model.  They contacted me because they wanted an independent publication on the level of VOGUE, and they chose Fashion Avenue News.  During the negotiations, they stated that they only needed me for the segment, not my team (photographer, designer, HMUA, etc) – when I heard this, I explained to them, “I cannot not do this unless you allow me to use my own team”.  I took a STAND and stood up for the people that had been HOLDING ME DOWN.  They said they would have to get back to me…. I said fine, because I was not going to budge, it’s my team or NO DEAL.  They came back to me with a YES…. I could have my own team…….. I was willing to SACRIFICE an opportunity to be on one of the most watched TV programs in the world for my TEAM…………..we got the TV segment made with Designer Kenya Smith & team (motorcycles), HMUA: Lenny Hamilton & Tiffany Brown, Photographers:  Allison V. Brown and Paul A. Walker. 


Do you know what it would do for a small, independent business if a “CELEBRITY” used something from them instead of CHANEL, LOUIS VUITTON, etc., it would help to GROW their business…it would help them STAY IN BUSINESS………….it would help them PAY THEIR BILLS…………….. Imagine if you HEARD that Denzel Washington (whom I adore) was coming to a local seminar near you to drop ACTING JEWELS……. And he was DONATING HIS TIME…………… The producer of that seminar would make enough money to have another seminar……………but where is DENZEL……… (read a little about Denzie, that’s what I like to call him)

Actor Denzel Hayes Washington was born on December 28, 1954, in Mount Vernon, New York. He is the son of a Pentecostal minister and a beauty shop owner and has two siblings. Washington first took the stage around the age of seven, appearing in a talent show at his local Boys & Girls Club. The club provided him with a safe place to be and to keep him out of trouble. At 14, his parents divorced and he and his older sister were sent away to boarding school.

Washington went to Fordham University, but he proved to be a poor student initially. After taking some time away from college, he returned to the university with a new interest in acting and graduated with a B.A. in Drama and Journalism in 1977. Washington later won a scholarship to the American Conservatory Theater in San Francisco, and afterwards worked with the Shakespeare in the Park ensemble.

Denzel Washington info credits: https://www.biography.com/actor/denzel-washington – NOTE: Denzel Washington still makes appearances at the Boys & Girls Club.

Imagine if Beyonce or Rhianna wore a Norman Josey or Corey Rogers gown to the MET Ball……………

A little about Rhianna

Singer Robyn Rihanna Fenty was born on February 20, 1988, in St. Michael Parish on the Caribbean island of Barbados. She is the eldest of three children born to Monica Fenty, an accountant, and Ronald Fenty, a warehouse supervisor. Rihanna’s childhood was marred by her father’s struggles with addictions to alcohol and crack cocaine and her parents’ marital problems—they divorced when she was 14 years old.

Rihanna also struggled with crippling headaches for several years during her childhood, a condition she attempted to hide from her friends and classmates so that they would not think she was abnormal. “I never expressed how I felt,” she remembered. “I always kept it in. I would go to school … you would never know there was something wrong with me.”

A little about Beyonce….. When Beyoncé was eight, she and childhood friend Kelly Rowland met LaTavia Roberson while at an audition for an all-girl entertainment group.[29] They were placed into a group called Girl’s Tyme with three other girls, and rapped and danced on the talent show circuit in Houston.[30] After seeing the group, R&B producer Arne Frager brought them to his Northern California studio and placed them in Star Search, the largest talent show on national TV at the time. Girl’s Tyme failed to win, and Beyoncé later said the song they performed was not good.[31][32] In 1995 Beyoncé’s father resigned from his job to manage the group.[33] The move reduced Beyoncé’s family’s income by half, and her parents were forced to move into separated apartments.[18] Mathew cut the original line-up to four and the group continued performing as an opening act for other established R&B girl groups.[29] The girls auditioned before record labels and were finally signed to Elektra Records, moving to Atlanta Records briefly to work on their first recording, only to be cut by the company.[18] This put further strain on the family, and Beyoncé’s parents separated. On October 5, 1995, Dwayne Wiggins‘s Grass Roots Entertainment signed the group. In 1996, the girls began recording their debut album under an agreement with Sony Music, the Knowles family reunited, and shortly after, the group got a contract with Columbia Records

Create a BRIDGE OF SUCCESS by reaching out and helping the person that has been HOLDING YOU DOWN (urban dictionary meaning) all the time, help an intern, be a vehicle for success ……..think about who you surround yourself with and if they are there because you have gained a little status or do they really “HAVE YOUR BACK”. Be CONSCIOUS of where you spend your money, where you eat, and shop.

People, as you level up…………….keep all of this in mind…………..  I ask GOD EVERY DAY to never let me forget the people or friends that are my foundation…….. to keep me humble and  to remember that I DID NOT GET HERE BY MYSELF, it’s a team effort………I am GRATEFUL FOR MY TEAM… I am GRATEFUL for my Fashion Family…….

********I welcome FEEDBACK on this dialog. The purpose of the references to Denzel, Beyonce and Rihanna, is to show they were not born rich or famous, they worked to get where they are, now reach back and get some others.

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